Tuesday, 30 April 2013

Morphic Fields and Systemic Family Constellations

Rupert Sheldrake on Morphic Fields and Systemic Family Constellations 

Below is a link to a you tube recording of Dr. Rupert Sheldrake, an English biochemist and author, explaining how we (humans as well as other social creatures) are connected via what he calls a 'morphic field.' He also describes the presence of this field within Family Constellations. It's really worth watching.


Thursday, 18 April 2013


Two years ago I brought home a puppy knowing very little about the being of dogs. I had often seen the impact that pets had had on my clients' lives and had set up representatives for dogs, horses and cats in constellation work. The effect that a pet has on a family is deeply touching. I have seen that dogs in particular carry something very deep for their owners. It's as if they say, "out of love for you I will carry this until you are able to." Dogs manifest all sorts of behaviors which are often misunderstood or overlooked- a dog is a beautiful family barometer: look at the dog and you will learn something about the family system.
As is the case with children, dogs are extremely loyal beings. We have all heard of Greyfriars Bobby- The Most Famous Dog in Scotland, who laid by his master's grave day and night. There are countless stories such as this, and those of you who have had dogs will understand the level of loyalty that a dog carries.
I believe that dogs love us deeply and I have known clients who have had their lives saved by a pet when they were children. One particular client of mine described their dog as the only 'being in their childhood home who truly understood them and loved them unconditionally.' When the abuse got too much this particular client hid in the dog kennel, curled up beside his beloved dog. In a constellation I did with this individual I asked him to say to his dog, "thank you, you saved my life"
As parents, many of us do our best to free our children up from family entanglements. We could look towards our beloved pets and thank them for their bountiful love and start to work on freeing them up so they can get on with being a freer animal.

Julie Toms-Arbel 18th April 2013
My dog Wolf

Monday, 23 April 2012

Article on my work in Spirit and Destiny magazine

Family constellation workshops are notoriously difficult to write about. Janey Lee Grace, radio 2 presenter and author of 5 books, has written an article (in the May edition of the magazine Spirit and Destiny) about her experience as an issue holder at one of my workshops. You can purchase this magazine in Spa, WHSmiths, Waitrose, Asda etc...

Tuesday, 13 December 2011

The Nativity-A human story

As we draw towards Christmas we may look at the story of the Nativity and wonder about its significance outside of religious thought. For me, the Nativity is a human story, perhaps one of humanities most important stories; a story about the importance of witnessing a child.
The Jesus child is born in the most humble of conditions, a stable. Those who visit the babe, the simple shepherds and the three Kings, represent two streams of humanity. The Kings when meeting him fall to their knees; they bare witness to the child and bring him gifts. As we know kings never usually fall to their knees, but in this story they do. They come to witness the birth of a child, as do the humble shepherds.
All new born babies have a natural reaching out movement; their very survival depends upon it. And as they grow the young child asks, on a daily basis, to be seen, to be witnessed. We have all experienced young children demanding to be acknowledged: "look at me in the tree," "look at me on my bike" etc. We have all been children and have possessed this need for acknowledgement and witnessing by another.
When a child reaches out time and time again but are not received, what options then are available to them? The way many survive is to go into the longest hibernation of the soul and stay there until it is safe to re-emerge. For some this can take many years as it can only happen when the individual feels sufficiently secure. I have worked with many a person who has been in hibernation for most of their lives. It seems that this very hiding preserves something very special in the individual, it protects who they essentially are and when the time is right and they feel able to show themselves, they peep out.
So as we draw towards Christmas, we may look towards the child, our own inner child; the part of us that came into the world with wonder in our eyes and trust in our hearts; the part of us that needed witnessing.  Perhaps we can give that part of ourselves a place as we look towards the twinkling lights of the Christmas tree and find some light in the darkness this winter.
Happy Christmas,

Thursday, 6 October 2011

Homeopathy For The Soul

Janey Lee Grace, author of five books and radio presenter, has been attending some of my constellation workshops and has written a short article on my work called, 'Homeopathy For The Soul.' If you are interested in reading this then please visit www.imperfectlynatural.com  


Thursday, 29 September 2011


Today is Michaelmas and it is not for nothing that this festival falls just after the autumn equinox. In the spring (leaf time) the sap rising in the plant kingdom and mother earth is expansive, her leaves reach out and the landscape looks full. As humans we make the same movement- spring and summer are times where we start to expand too; we loose some of our normal rhythms; we stay up later, have picnics, spend more time outside and move into the summer mood of dreamy formlessness. Shakespeare wrote about this phenomena in Twelth Night. He refers to “midsummer madness…”

As we move into September we can feel the beginning of the drawing in process. Autumn is root time, where the sap leaves the leafs and nourishes the roots of the plant. Many folk struggle around this time. Holidays are left behind and form again is imposed upon us. I have noticed over the years that many of my clients have felt unwell or struggled in September, so I have offered them the picture of St Michael- there he stands with his sword in hand (the sword represents the human will) keeping the dragon at his feet and mastering it. The dragon in many traditions has represented the untamed mind taking us away from the present: it can represent worries, fears and pain. St Michael is a picture of standing in the now, attending to the present and saying ‘no’ to the chattering mind.

Autumn for me is coming back home- nature is retreating and I can enter a deeper place within myself. It is a time for creativity and renewal. It sets the tone for the winter where we are required to find our own light in the darkness.

Happy Michaelmas